"Sorry" is a Bad Word
All of our lives, we have been told that if we felt as though we did something wrong, we should apologize. Even if we didn't do anything wrong, we were still told to apologize. I can't say if it was because we were the younger children of the situation, but we were always the victims of apology. A stranger would bump into you on the street, and you were the one expected to say "sorry." A family member would call you a brat, and you were the one that would apologize to them. Teachers wouldn't provide a full lesson causing you to fail the test, and you were the one who said "sorry." It was always us who go our feelings hurt but still had to form an apology within our broken minds from our broken hearts. We have been the victims of being hurt, yet we had to find the reason as to why we were hurt and how it was our fault. A young girl is taken advantage of at a party because why? "Her shirt was cut too low," they would say. She would then have to stand up a stand and apologize to everyone for not bringing a jacket that night, but instead, walking away without her innocence. A young boy is bullied because he loves someone of the same sex, yet he is the one that has to apologize because according to others "Being gay is a choice." We live in a world where 75% of my own apologies weren't even my fault, but because I'm the one who was scolded as a child, I felt as though I needed to say "sorry." Because we were the younger ones, we were automatically assumed immature, so that is what called for our apology fest that we never knew why. We still don't know why. "Sorry" has become an automatic response for when people feel anything other than happy. We hear of relationships where one of the lovers constantly apologizes because their partner had a domestic outburst, and they believed it was because of them. We hear young men being called a threat because of the color of their skin, so they are the ones that have to apologize for not being born lighter. We see people who have become so addicted to drugs because it was the only way they could have supported their sick mother's say sorry because they appear lazy and desperate. We live in a world where the assumptions for ourselves are the applications for our apologies. However, I am here to tell you that "sorry" is a bad word. It is meant for only the times it is needed, and not to be thrown around in front of those who don't deserve it. We shouldn't be breaking our own hearts anymore for the people that broke their promises. We shouldn't have to keep apologizing for other people's actions. "Sorry for being gay. Sorry for being a woman. Sorry for being black. Sorry for being poor. Sorry for being alone. Sorry for being abused. Sorry for being younger. Sorry for being right. Sorry for being innocent. Sorry for being sorry." Are these the phrases the world wants to hear? No, but deep down under these apologies that people are writing, these are the true meaning behind why they are saying "sorry." It shouldn't have to be this way. People shouldn't have to apologize for who they are anymore, and we sure as hell shouldn't have to apologize because it is what we are told to do. You say that word when you truly mean it, not when you feel the other person expects it. Because at the end of the day, we are all human, and we can't apologize for being that.
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